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Levels of Friendship

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Friendship is a fundamental aspect of human life, providing emotional support, companionship, and a sense of belonging. However, not all friendships are created equal; they exist on different levels, each with varying degrees of intimacy and trust. Understanding the levels of friendship can help us appreciate the diverse roles friends play in our lives and how we can nurture these relationships. This essay will explore the three primary levels of friendship: the outer call, the middle call, and the inner call.

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The Outer Call as Levels of Friendship

The outer call represents the most casual level of friendship. These are the acquaintances and social connections we interact with occasionally. While these relationships may not be deeply intimate, they still play a valuable role in our social lives.

Characteristics of the Outer Call

  1. Limited Interaction: Interactions with outer-call friends are infrequent and often occur in group settings or through social events.

  2. Surface-Level Conversations: Conversations tend to be light and focused on general topics such as current events, work, or shared interests.

  3. Polite and Friendly: While the connection is not deeply personal, it is characterized by politeness and friendliness.

  4. Networking Opportunities: Outer-call friends can be valuable for networking, expanding social circles, and introducing us to new experiences and people.

Importance of the Outer Call

Outer-call friendships are essential for maintaining a broad social network. They provide opportunities for social engagement and can lead to deeper connections over time. These relationships also offer a sense of community and belonging, contributing to our overall social well-being.

The Middle Call as a Level of Friendship

The middle call consists of friends with whom we share a closer bond than those in the outer call. These relationships involve more frequent interactions and a higher level of personal connection.

Characteristics of the Middle Call

  1. Regular Interaction: Middle-call friends interact more regularly, often through planned activities, regular catch-ups, or shared hobbies.

  2. Deeper Conversations: Conversations with middle-core friends go beyond surface-level topics, including personal experiences, opinions, and feelings.

  3. Mutual Support: These friends offer emotional support and are more involved in each other’s lives. They celebrate successes and provide comfort during difficult times.

  4. Trust and Reliability: There is a higher level of trust and reliability, as both parties feel comfortable sharing more personal aspects of their lives.

Importance of the Middle Call

Middle call friendships are crucial for emotional support and companionship. They provide a sense of stability and trust, allowing individuals to feel understood and valued. These relationships often serve as a bridge between casual acquaintances and the most intimate friendships.

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The Inner Call as a Level of Friendship

The inner call represents the deepest and most intimate level of friendship. These are the friends we trust implicitly and with whom we share our most personal thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

Characteristics of the Inner Call

  1. Frequent and Meaningful Interaction: Inner call friends interact frequently, with interactions characterized by depth and significance.

  2. Open and Honest Communication: Conversations are open, honest, and vulnerable, covering a wide range of personal and intimate topics.

  3. Unwavering Support: Inner call friends provide unwavering support, standing by each other through thick and thin. They are the first people we turn to in times of need.

  4. Deep Trust and Loyalty: These friendships are built on a foundation of deep trust and loyalty. Both parties feel secure in the knowledge that they can rely on each other unconditionally.

Importance of the Inner Call

Inner-call friendships are vital for our emotional and psychological well-being. They provide a safe space for expressing our true selves without fear of judgment. These relationships offer profound emotional support, helping us navigate life’s challenges and celebrate our achievements. The deep sense of trust and loyalty in inner call friendships fosters a strong sense of security and belonging.


Understanding the levels of friendship—outer call, middle call, and inner call—allows us to appreciate the diverse roles friends play in our lives. Each level of friendship contributes uniquely to our social and emotional well-being, from casual acquaintances to our closest confidants.

By recognizing and nurturing these different types of relationships, we can build a rich and supportive social network that enhances our overall quality of life.

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